Meeting Cake’s needs at a birthday party is a pain. Basically I don’t expect anyone to make accommodations for Cake because I know it’s a pain, and instead I usually bring food for both of us. I ask the host what kind of food they are serving and then I try to bring something similar. This isn’t too difficult since most of Cake’s friends are two or three and birthday parties are either sandwiches or pizza or something easy like that. I bring cookies for Cake or I make some milk free cupcakes and bring those (the secret to that, in my opinion- So Delicious Coconut Creamer. It makes the cupcakes sweeter than when I make them with almond milk or coconut milk).
We went to a party recently and the mom made a TON of accommodations for Cake! It was so awesome! She had snacks he could eat – carrots, hummus, other veggies, popcorn with Earth Balance butter, and cake that Cake could eat! I thanked the hostess as much as I could, but I basically was so happy I almost cried. Being able to be ‘normal’ at a party is something that seems like it will be more difficult to do as Cake gets older.
Take the last party we went to as an example. We were invited to a birthday party last minute and it was a short walk from our townhouse (it was in our complex). They had pizza, cake, rock candy lollipop sticks, cheese puffs, Doritos, goldfish, an tortilla chips. There was also a drink with ice cream in it and cups with layers of yogurt and cake. Cake could eat the rock candy lollipop…..and that was only after I dug through the garbage a bit to make sure he could eat them. There were two huge tables of food…..and Cake couldn’t eat any of it. I don’t think he’s really used to that yet – he almost always can eat everything around except for what Allergy Dad gets for dinner when we are out sometimes. We have no family nearby so don’t have to deal with big family gatherings much. Anyways, Cake was happy that he got to eat the rock candy lollipop thing as we walked home, but it was a little sad to me that at a ‘normal’ party he can’t really eat anything.