Birthday party: making accommodations for everyone!

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I already wrote about how meeting Cake’s needs at a party is a pain. Then I started planning Cake’s birthday party. I can do milk and nut and other foods free…..and I’ve made cupcakes that are milk free several times so that’s a no brainer for me to do. Plus we are ordering pizza, and Cake can eat pizza from a few places around us where they make the crust and sauce and some toppings milk free/cheese free so that’s not a big deal.

Then I started thinking about the other guests…..I have invited 3 families plus my mom will be flying in for the week (yay!). Between all of us, there are several variations on diet issues:
– milk/peanut/tree nut free (& Cake’s other allergies)
– vegan
– gluten free
– food dye free

So now I had to make milk free, vegan, gluten free, food dye free cupcakes…..decorated like Minions from Despicable Me because that’s what Cake would like.

I did my usual replacements for cupcakes – Earth Balance butter for butter and So Delicious Coconut Creamer for milk. Then I switched out 1/3 cup of applesauce for eggs, then added some honey in them for extra sweetness (because I’ve made cupcakes before with a certain recipe and while it was good it needed to be lighter and sweeter). They came out pretty good. I was thinking of making the wet mixture then taking some out before adding the flour and making those into a gluten free cupcake for my mom – I have both coconut flour and almond flour but I’m not sure which one works best.

Then there’s the frosting. The issue with the frosting is that when you mix Earth Balance butter with powdered sugar and milk to make frosting, it comes out a dull yellow, which doesn’t work great for Minion cupcakes. I think I’m going to give up on figuring out this replacement and just ask that mom to borrow her all natural food coloring (hopefully it won’t contain lemons…..)when I make the cupcakes. I’m sure she will, and then *hopefully* everyone’s dietary needs will be met.

Oh, wait, my mom is gluten free…..I’ll have to either order her a gluten free, milk free pizza for herself or I’ll just make her a meal at home to eat for lunch for Cake’s party. Hopefully she will understand….

I think next year we will skip buying pizza and making cupcakes. Since I’ve practiced about three batches of cupcakes, Cake has started asking if we can just do cookies for his birthday instead…..I think I’ll do that next year. I’ll just buy some boxes of various cookies to meet various dietary issues, do it at a non-meal time, and call it done!

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Going to birthday parties

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Meeting Cake’s needs at a birthday party is a pain. Basically I don’t expect anyone to make accommodations for Cake because I know it’s a pain, and instead I usually bring food for both of us. I ask the host what kind of food they are serving and then I try to bring something similar. This isn’t too difficult since most of Cake’s friends are two or three and birthday parties are either sandwiches or pizza or something easy like that. I bring cookies for Cake or I make some milk free cupcakes and bring those (the secret to that, in my opinion- So Delicious Coconut Creamer. It makes the cupcakes sweeter than when I make them with almond milk or coconut milk).

We went to a party recently and the mom made a TON of accommodations for Cake! It was so awesome! She had snacks he could eat – carrots, hummus, other veggies, popcorn with Earth Balance butter, and cake that Cake could eat! I thanked the hostess as much as I could, but I basically was so happy I almost cried. Being able to be ‘normal’ at a party is something that seems like it will be more difficult to do as Cake gets older.

Take the last party we went to as an example. We were invited to a birthday party last minute and it was a short walk from our townhouse (it was in our complex). They had pizza, cake, rock candy lollipop sticks, cheese puffs, Doritos, goldfish, an tortilla chips. There was also a drink with ice cream in it and cups with layers of yogurt and cake. Cake could eat the rock candy lollipop…..and that was only after I dug through the garbage a bit to make sure he could eat them. There were two huge tables of food…..and Cake couldn’t eat any of it. I don’t think he’s really used to that yet – he almost always can eat everything around except for what Allergy Dad gets for dinner when we are out sometimes. We have no family nearby so don’t have to deal with big family gatherings much. Anyways, Cake was happy that he got to eat the rock candy lollipop thing as we walked home, but it was a little sad to me that at a ‘normal’ party he can’t really eat anything.